Anger and unresolved conflicts can be the source of heavy loads that weigh on our chests and on our subconscious. The effects of unresolved issues with loved ones, with partners or even with neighbors often go unnoticed until we are confronted. The confrontation is not always the result of a crisis; it can come from a moment of accomplishment and triumph that awakens the need to resolve past anger and disappointments, and bring forth forgiveness.
Twenty-five years ago, I had a major success in Israel with an album called Haisha Sheiti. The euphoria also brought with it conflict and distrust, mostly due to inexperience. The result was a breakup of relationships with a few players key to this success. None of us know exactly what happened. That’s the essence, the truth of it all. But after a long period of dis-communication, maturity prompted me to extend an invitation to many of these players who had long been estranged. The occasion was the gala event marking the 25th anniversary of our success which was to take place in Tel Aviv’s grand Mann Auditorium.
One particular partner asked me over to his house to meet his family. The intimacy of that meeting led us to sit down and try to catch up with each other. What reappeared was the old affection and trust.
Before we parted, our eyes locked and the inevitable question came up, “What happened 25 years ago that caused this long rift?”
There was a blank space. It was a moment of forgiveness. Now with a little less of a load in my soul, I can confront new dreams.
David Broza is a multi-platinum Israeli singer-songwriter and a goodwill ambassador for UNICEF. www.davidbroza.net
